IT IS WHAT IT IS

The most inspiring thing I have ever heard.  I thought and thought about what I should choose to write about.  I don't know of any poems or songs that mean any thing to me or that have inspired me. So, I know you must be wondering why this saying?.  I know it's an odd choice.  It probably means nothing to a lot of people.  It is, after all, a very common thing to say.  I will shorten up my very long story so you can see why these five words have inspired me to move on with my life, and to make better choices.  Forgive myself.

I heard it for the very first time about 3 years ago.  I am sure a lot of people said it then, but I honestly never heard it before.  I had really let down some immediate members of my family.  I got a divorce and lost a house that was on the land they gave me.  The house was suppose to stay in the family.  I made some really bad choices, and I had beaten my self up over it every day because of the hurt and anger I caused my family, especially my brother.  I was very emotionally distraught over it, until one day my mom and I were talking and she said to me "Tanya, it is it what it is.  There is nothing you can do.  It is just a house.  You need to move on."  She had told my brother the same thing.  She didn't want to take sides so she had to let us know that "it is what it is" and we both need to move on.  I said those words over and over again and really thought about them. I was so inspired to move on with my life. 

My mom telling me this has really changed my life.  Had I not heard it, I probably would not have the relationship that I now have with my brother and family.  I don't think either one of us would have been able to forgive me.  Hearing those five words has helped me to forgive, to let me know that I can't change the past, that I need to deal with it and move on.